100 Questions to Strengthen Your Relationship

When we're in a long-term relationship, we often think we know everything about our 'better half' but there's always more to learn! Run through this list of 100 questions to get to know your partner even better. 

These 100 getting-to-know-you questions will unearth facts and stories you never knew before! We suggest asking a few questions each night over dinner and taking turns to provide answers. Before you know it, you'll be chatting about stories from your childhood, your thoughts on the future, and sharing insights about would-you-ever ideas ... that you've probably never thought of before. 

You can skip questions and give yes/no answers if you want... but you'll have the most fun and learn more if you commit to answering every question in as much detail as you can. Go ahead - share your secret thoughts with each other!

The ultimate list of 100 get-to-know-you questions.

1. Are you a starter or a finisher?
2. What do you value most: free time, recognition, or money?
3. What form of transport is best or worst? (Are you scared of flying?)
4. Are you living your life purpose, or are you still searching?
5. What's the best (and worst) item in your fridge, right this moment?
6. Are you useful in a crisis?
7. If you could sit down with your 15-year old self, what would you say?
8. Name three things that make you love me - that most people wouldn't notice
9. What was your first job, best job, and worst job?
10. Can you tell when someone is lying/telling the truth?
11. Do you believe in magic? When have you felt it?
12. What bores you?
13. If you had an extra $100 to spend on yourself every week, what would you do?
14. Does everyone deserve forgiveness?
15. What's in your pocket / bag right now?
16. Do any laws or social rules that completely baffle you?
17. Have you looked for answers or omens in dreams?
18. What three things make you feel prepared for each day?
19. Do you have any habits you wish you could erase?
20. What's the best compliment you've ever received?
21. Do you have any irrational fears?
22. Do you think you're currently operating at 100% capacity?
23. If you could choose your own life obstacles, would you keep the ones you have?
24. Ever fantasize about being in a rock band? What would your group be called?
25. Has a teacher ever changed your life?
26. Have you ever kept a New Year's Resolution?
27. What household chores you secretly enjoy?
28. What's the hardest thing you ever had to do?
29. When was the last time you astonished yourself?
30. Have you had a psychic reading, and did it come true?
31. What's one mistake you keep repeating?
32. Have you ever had to make a public apology? 
33. Who is the kindest person you've ever met? What did they do that was so kind?
34. What’s your ideal number of kids?
35. Have you ever pushed your body further than you dreamed possible?
36. What one movie could you watch once a week for the rest of your life?
37. How do you reign in self-critical voices?
38. What's one dream that you've tucked away for the moment?
39. How long can you go without checking your phone?
40. What's the best piece of advice you've received?
41. How would you fix the economy?
42. Have you ever fantasized about writing an advice column? What's the first question you'd like to answer?
43. Would you rather have a live-in massage therapist or a live-in chef?
44. What one thing do I do that you wish I wouldn't?
45. If a mysterious benefactor wrote you a check for $5,000 and said, "Help me solve a problem — any problem!"… what would you do?
46. What’s your favorite scent?
47. If you could start a university course, with your tuition paid in full by a mysterious benefactor and no time constraints, what would you study — and why?
48. If you could grab coffee with one fictional character, who would it be?
49. If you were heading out on a road trip right this minute, what would you pack?
50. What do you think is the perfect age to get married?
51. If social media didn't exist, how would your life be different?
52. What's your biggest regret? 
53. Do people deserve to be happy?
54. If you wrote romance novels or erotic fiction, what would your "pen name" be?
55. Is there something that people consistently ask you for help with?
56. What are you an expert on? Is it because of training, lived experience, or both?
57. If you had time for a new hobby - what would you like to do? Why don't you?
58. What are you freakishly good at?
59. Do you have any physical features that you dislike or try to hide? 
60. What’s your spirit animal?
61. Have you ever set two friends up on a date?
62. What's the best part of your day so far?
63. Have you ever met one of your heroes?
64. What was your proudest moment from the past twelve months?
65. Have you ever been genuinely afraid for your physical safety?
66. What was your worst look of all time?
67. Have you ever stolen anything? (Money, candy, hearts, time?)
68. What's one thing you're deeply proud of — but would never put on your résumé?
69. If you were searching through an online dating website, what's the #1 thing that would attract you to someone's profile?
70. What's something you've tried that you wouldn't try again?
71. Have you ever fantasized about changing your first name? To what?
72. What's the most important/useful thing you know?
73. Do you like to be saved — or do the saving?
74. What was the best kiss of your entire life?
75. Do you think everyone can be a leader?
76. What's the most out-of-character choice you've ever made?
77. Would you like to write a screenplay? (About what?)
78. If you could master a new instrument, what would it be?
79. What do you think is your most attractive feature?
80. What's the strangest date you've ever been on?
81. What was the one thing that made you fall in love?
82. Have you won an award? What was it for?
83. Would you rather be a lonely genius or a sociable idiot?
84. What's the title of your future memoir?
85. What's your definition of an ideal houseguest?
86. If you could save one endangered species from extinction, which would you choose?
87. What's your guiltiest of guilty pleasures?
88. What's your most urgent priority for the rest of the year?
89. What's your personal anthem or theme song?
90. Have you ever been stuck in a rut? How did you get out of it?
91. What animal did you last see in the wild? 
92. Have you ever fallen out with a friend, but wish you could reconnect?
93. When you see peers/competitors getting things you want, how do you react?
94. Where & when do you get your best ideas?
95. Would you consider yourself an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert?
96. What do you want your life to look like in 5 years?
97. Would you rather have an extra $200 a day, or an additional 2 hours a day?
98. Can you describe your dream home?
99. What are you most grateful for, right now, in this moment?
100. How did you know I was 'the one'?

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