We’re sure you don’t need us to tell you that there are a million decisions to make and details to arrange for your wedding day…because you’re probably well aware of that by now! Surprisingly, you can happily defer decision-making in numerous aspects of your wedding! It's entirely up to you if you prefer to take a back seat on these details.
If your girls are all asking you what kind of jewelry or shoes you want them to wear for the wedding and you don't have a strong opinion - let them decide. Give them some generic guidelines to follow (like the color, type of shoe, type of necklace, etc.) and let them do the hunt on their own. This is such a tiny detail, so you shouldn’t have to spend hours (or days or weeks) trying to find the perfect items. Plus, this allows them to find their own accessories at a price they feel comfortable with!
If you’re going with the mismatched look for your wedding party, let your girls choose their dresses on their own. It can get extremely time-consuming and overwhelming trying to find not one perfect bridesmaid dress but five (or however many bridesmaids you have). Make it easier on yourself by coordinating the color scheme you’re going for and then letting your bridesmaids choose their own color and have them find their own dress. Just like with their accessories, you can give them guidelines around whatever details are important to you (floor length, material, etc.), but feel free to save yourself the hassle of having to choose each individual one.
You probably have your hands full already with wedding planning, so feel free to pass off the responsibility for planning the rehearsal dinner. Traditionally, the groom’s parents are responsible for the rehearsal dinner. That means covering the cost and planning the event. If you feel comfortable with your groom’s side of the family planning the rehearsal dinner, by all means, let them. However, if you don’t want to relinquish all control, you can always make suggestions, but let your groom’s parents do the work of comparing prices, booking a place, arranging the menu, and sending out invitations.
Welcome bags are a really nice gesture for your out-of-town guests. It’s a fun way to show a little extra appreciation to those who spent the time and money traveling into town for your wedding. But taking the time to plan all the goodies to go inside the bag and arrange everything together can be a lot of work – especially if you’re trying to personalize any details or be extra creative. If you really want to offer welcome bags, delegate this task to someone you trust to order all the goodies to go inside and put all the bags together for you. It’s a fun job for someone else to do but a pretty low-priority one for you and your fiancé to do yourselves. Win-win!
If you already have ideas for songs you’d like to be played during these traditions, great! However, if you don’t already have songs in mind, don’t worry about spending lots of time trying to find the most meaningful songs. Only a small portion of each song will be played anyway, and none of your guests will look back and remember details as tiny as this. Your DJ should be very familiar with what songs are popular for these rituals and, therefore, should easily be able to make suggestions for you. If these songs aren’t all that important to you, just let your DJ select the tunes for you and call it good.
Wedding planning involves countless details, but thankfully, not every one requires your full attention. Feel free to delegate certain tasks to trusted family and friends. This lifts some pressure off your shoulders so you can focus on the aspects of your wedding that matter most to you. At the end of the day, your guests will remember how the wedding made them feel, not the tiny logistical details. Focus on creating a meaningful event and let the less critical planning fall into place around it.